It may be hard for some to fathom, but your wife is your best friend. You should be inseparable once you have been joined. You should not even let your father get in the way.
“4He answered, ‘Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5and said, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”? 6So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.’” – Matthew 19:4-6 (ESV)
Now before we get too deep into the male and female and what about the wife as this passage speaks of the husband, we have to remember that it was the custom of the time to speak about the men. For sure, wives hold to the same that they are joined to the husband as one, just as Jesus explains above, but for the sake of my thoughts here I take the same approach of the time and speak of the man, not to mention that I am a man and husband myself.
Jesus was asked about divorce in the passage and is addressing the Pharisees. He was expressing that men are to leave their fathers and devote themselves to their wives from that time forward. When I see this mention of devotion, I see that when it comes to my life, I am to do all of life with Lori. I took her as my wife and would not have done so had she not been the one who I wanted to ensure was with me for the rest of my life.
Lori and I started our lives together and did all things as one. Then we were blessed with the boys, Bryson and Aarron. We poured ourselves into them as one and for about 25 yrs, they were the focus of our attention. And now, it is again just the two of us and we are able to just get back to focusing on each other and doing all together as one. We are with each other for the long haul and I will speak for me and say, I would have it no other way.
We are best friends and are inseparable. We do all things together and everyone knows that we are a package deal. When you invite one of us, the other is expected to be there. I say this not from my own thoughts, but we have been told too many times that when thought of one of us, the other is just part of it.
So, knowing that others see us as the package deal, I say that we have done it. We are best friends and have largely separated ourselves from the parents and have become one, just as Jesus indicates above.
Now, I am not saying that one should not have relationships with their father and others. Lori and I do find and make the time to do our separate things. We have other friends and those we do things with, but our BEST friend is one another. I still interact with my father and mother, yet my life is devoted to Lori, has been for over 27 yrs and will be as long as I am here with her.
Who is your best friend? Are you finding yourself spending more time with others? What if you devoted yourself to your spouse and spent the time together as BEST friends and as one as Jesus speaks?
Trevor's Thoughts 